chiv·al·rous
adj \ˈshi-vəl-rəs\Definition of CHIVALROUS
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Welcome. Let's get right to it, shall we?
I've never been one for sugar coating things, although I do believe in TACT. People have gotten reeeeeeally lazy these days, we treat each other pretty badly. That's why there are so many issues in relationships and most would rather be single.
CHIVALRY IS NOT DEAD. There is nothing wrong with submitting out of love & respect for another human being, and caring enough to make sure they are getting what they need emotionally & mentally.
Chivalry was practiced by Knights, long ago. It was a standard set for all people to follow, in regards to how you were supposed to treat one another. Especially women. Although, I hold everyone to that standard.
Things in our society are horrible these days. Men not doing what they're supposed to, being ignorant & unfaithful....Ugh. Women acting like they have no respect for themselves & being comfortable as playthings, degrading themselves for attention. Then here comes the whole "Independent Woman" movement.
That was gasoline on a campfire...
YEAH I SAID IT.
And ignorant, lazy men did nothing but make the situation worse.
SMH...It is time for things to change. One person at a time ;-p
There is nothing wrong with having pride and being glad you can take care of yourself, but you can't expect a man to want to treat you like a lady, if you don't allow him to be a man. It throws everything out of whack. You have to ease up sometimes. Not all men respond to that...
As for those men...SMH....uuuugggghhhhh. I get it. Some don't care. Some don't know any better. Some want to do the right thing, but aren't sure how to go about it. Some have to be coached. It happens.
We ALL have to be coached. Even me :-)
I can be a lady when I want to. Dainty, delicate...like a geisha.
So much so, that I'd like my food ordered & cut up for me. YEP. So what?
HOWEVER, LOL...Ive got a mouth like a sailor and a bit of a temper. NEITHER are ladylike. AT ALL.
There are things that we all need to get in order, it cannot be helped.
I want to help people get things on track. I know what needs to be done, exactly how to get it done and I'm here to help as much as I can. Its time to start putting forth some real effort for your significant other.
**So if you need gift ideas, proposal set-ups, special dinners made, massage lessons, gift baskets, birthdays, anniversary surprises, etc.
I am your girl. I will help you put something amazing together & wow your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, possible fiancée, etc.
Together we can make magic happen.
But the way people look at tings MUST change.
First, Let's address a few basics...................
THEY APPLY TO WOMEN AND MEN.
I DON'T BASH EITHER SEX. PERIOD. I TELL THE TRUTH. NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE IT...OR RECEIVE IT. BUT THE TRUTH WILL STILL BE THE TRUTH.........
EVEN IF YOU ARE OFFENDED. Those that really want to grow & wanna do amazing things for their partner, will contact me :-)
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LESSON 1 :
Above, you will see the Code of Chivalry and the definition below it. Now it seems to me, that abiding by something so simple would be difficult even for most people. Why, I don't know. It's not hard.....really.
1) Sometimes all a person wants is an APOLOGY. Good Lord people. Seriously. It takes guts, to stop being a stubborn, spoiled child and take responsibility for what you have done. So buck up, get rid of the underoos/princess panties, put on the Kenneth Cole & the Victoria's Secret ....AND APOLOGIZE.
2) The TRUE point of giving an apology, is because you plan on turning from the behavior and NOT doing whatever you have done again. GOT IT?
3) $$$ doesn't take the place of an apology. Buying a gift after you apologize is acceptable. Flowers, candy, etc. It is a small act of submission & sincerity, that shows you are outwardly acknowledging your actions.
4) SEX....does not make stuff better. It can make things worse. It is a band-aid. Do NOT kid yourself.
The wound (issue) is still underneath. That "make up" sex you're having may be great at the time, but if you don't learn how to function better at the core of your relationship, you will continue to have problems.
5) Learn how to bond TOGETHER. People need space, Eh, that's debatable.
I get the whole "men and women have to make sure they have their own lives" thing.
Really, I do. Having something special you can do TOGETHER is very important.
If you cannot bond together, there is no point in being irritated with another person when they seem distant because they're preoccupied & don't really enjoy being around you like they used to. That means they are getting used to being AWAY FROM YOU. And the magic is probably fading.
Think about it. What do you have to talk about? What do you really have in common?
What happens when you see your partner happy because they are doing something new and you have no idea whats going on, so you sit there looking and probably feeling dumb, while they enjoy their new hobby?
Or what if their new found hobby keeps them away from you all the time, because they enjoy it so much? You can't be upset, because he/she more than likely asked you to go in the first place, and your LAZY ASS refused. Now you're mad cause your relationship is on the rocks, because of the person they met while being away from you.....STUPID.
So find something you can do as a couple, at least once a week and STICK TO IT.
Do it!! Whether it's a date night, a cooking class, going to the gym, practicing massage on each other, watching a particular show (Grey's, Game of Thrones, Family Guy, etc) or playing some video games.
It will give you both something to look forward to & allow you to TALK. Which is IMPORTANT.
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Got all that??? So, let's recap....
LESSON 1 : What Chivalry is, Learning how to APOLOGIZE, be sincere when doing so, don't do it again, make an effort to make the situation better, don't use sex as a way of fixing things & bond as a couple <3
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Until next time...live fully & respectfully, love wholeheartedly & let your light shine!!!
XoXo, SugoiChan
